We went around the room and introduced ourselves and our children at Story Time today at the library. I was the only mother there with her child, the rest were grandmas. And Jack was the only littlest brother, the rest were the firstborns of their families or had new babies in their homes. All of those big brothers and sisters were smaller than Jack, my baby.

My baby boy

I’ve been used to having little kids, but even my littles aren’t so much anymore. With potty training started and only months of breastfeeding left, motherhood is starting to look different.

When I’ve asked my mom what she wanted for her birthday, all my life she has told me the same thing. “To spend it with you.” And now that these yahoos have come along, she wants to spend it with them, too.

My mom with the kids on her birthday

Truly, this is all she wants, on her birthday and in her life, is to be with us.

Today is her birthday, but she is the gift – to us. I am thankful every day to have her in my life and the lives of my children. We are all better people for loving and being loved by her.

Captain Jack

Kids say hi. He roars.
“He’s being a dinosaur.”
I have to explain.

(He’s actually being a pirate in the picture.)

I took Phoebe out for some back to school shopping the Thursday before preschool began. We arrived at the mall early. The stores weren’t open yet, so we walked to the fountain. We took a selfie.

Shopping day with Phoebe

We each threw a penny in and made a wish. Then Phoebe threw three more in – one for each of her siblings – and all four of them wished for the same thing. She said they wished that Phoebe would get her ears pierced.

None of my kids have their ears pierced. I’m not opposed to it. My attitude is, if they want their ears pierced, we’ll do it, but I’d like for it to be up to them. That’s how my mom handled it with me. I still remember how special and grown up I felt when I had mine done. I’d like for my kids to feel the same, but any time they have expressed an interest, the conversation has gone like this.

“I think it’d be cool to wear earrings. Mom, can I get my ears pierced?”


“Well, does it hurt?”


“Uh, nevermind.”

But this day was different.

“Phoebe, do you really want your ears pierced? For real?”

“Yes! Let’s go, Mom. They do it here,” she said, walking to the tall chair in the doorway at Claire’s.

I reminded her that it hurts. By then, the store clerk had made her way to us and was telling Phoebe it feels sort of like a shot at the doctor’s office. “But it doesn’t hurt forever.”

“But it does hurt,” I said.

She said she wanted the Rainbow Dash earrings. I suggested we go get her shoes for school and come back for earrings, if she still wanted them. She scrambled up in the chair. “I want them. I’m ready.”

The clerk told her to relax, it would be a while. We needed to learn about how to care for her ears. I needed to fill out the paper work and she had to get everything ready.

“Are you sure, Bee? You have to wear them for a long time before you can even change them.”

“Mom, I AM SURE.”

It was clear she had made up her mind. “Alright then,” I said. And I got excited. “Let’s do this!”

We giggled. We squealed. We fantasized about how jealous Julia and Lucy would be. I let her pick out a stuffed animal since they were only $5 with ear piercing and they would pierce the animal’s ears, too. She chose a cat she named Polka Dot I Love You Cat.

The clerk drew dots on her ears with a purple marker where the earrings should go.

“Okay. Are you ready?”




She was shocked. It hurt! She did not expect this! Why didn’t we tell her it would hurt!?!?! Why did we do this to her! She was only joking when she said she wanted her ears pierced! “I said, ‘I want to get my ears pierced!’ and Mommy said, ‘For real?’ and I said, ‘No!’ But she made me do it anyway!”

We showed her the earring in her ear. Wasn’t it beautiful? It was! Beautiful! She was so brave! So grown up! So…regretful. So afraid of feeling that hurt again. The clerk and I tried to cajole her into getting the other one done. A grandmotherly woman shopping nearby stopped and joined us in our efforts. She offered to buy Phoebe a pair of earrings! We offered a variety of solutions. You can close your eyes! Sit in Mommy’s lap! Mommy will hold you! Once your ears are pierced, YOU can pierce Polka Dot I Love You Cats ears! You count this time! Phoebe suggested we count to one hundred.

A shameful amount of time passed. I finally said, “Let’s just do this, Bee. Let’s just get it done.” She knew I was through negotiating. She jumped from the chair and, in her panic, broke a store mirror. The food court patrons turned toward the crash and Phoebe started to sob. An indignant voice rose above the chatter, “She’s making her get her ears pierced.”

I picked Phoebe up, hugged her, and sat her back in the chair. “Phoebe, are you going to get your other ear pierced? You’ve already got one.”

“I’ve changed my mind. Take it out.”

I knew she was through, too. I hung my head. “Can we take this out?”

The clerk looked apologetic. “You still have to pay.”

“Of course.” I considered it a fine for my idiocy.

We walked back to the fountain, exhausted. Phoebe carried Polka Dot I Love You Cat. I carried the “I just got my ears pierced at Claire’s” bag with my new, $50 Rainbow Dash earrings. We sat on a bench.

“I’m not mad at you, Bee.”

“I’m not mad at you either.”

But I catch myself correcting her when she says she got her ears pierced. And she doesn’t want me to wear those Rainbow Dash earrings, ever.

I do my best to start each school day with a hot breakfast for the kids. They love cold cereal, but it doesn’t seem to satisfy them for long. It’s also expensive, so we save that for Saturday. During the week, I like to prepare them something a little more substantial. I’ve started a meal rotation that really seems to be working for us.

We have hot cocoa on Mondays. It’s our special thing. Cocoa Monday! I make french toast and bacon and serve it with fresh fruit. I can whip it up quick while the kids make their drinks.

Tuesdays, it’s a breakfast bake. I assemble it the night before and toss it in the oven when I wake up. Easy!

We have pancake muffins on Wednesdays and baked oatmeal on Thursdays. We vary them by adding different fruits. I love these meals because they are delicious! And I can get up and get them in the oven, take a shower, and they’re ready when I wake everyone else up.

On Friday, we have some version of bacon, eggs, and bread. Usually breakfast sandwiches with english muffins.

I used to think that having the same meals over and again would get boring, but the kids seem to like it better when they know what to expect. They’re not asking for four different breakfasts anymore. I do best when I have a routine. This one allows me extra time to focus on the kids instead of the kitchen and I love that!

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